Because people of color can *absolutely* internalize problematic
My boyfriend that is current is, but he could be among the not many Asian males I’ve dated.
Growing up, I lived in a predominantly white town, that has been one reason men—there just weren’t many around to begin with that I didn’t date many Asian. However it was additionally partially about me personally. During my teenagers and very very very early 20s, I became vehemently against dating guys that are asian. Whenever buddies attempted to set me up using the one Chinese guy in primary college, as because I was the only Chinese girl, I quickly became annoyed if we were meant to be. Plus in twelfth grade, we extremely plainly keep in mind a lot of dudes attempting to introduce me personally for their Asian buddy while we ended up being looking forward to the bus after college one day. We scoffed and moved away, irritated during the unspoken expectation that i ought to to my personal competition.
Now, I’m able to observe that I became surrounded by numerous, numerous problematic communications concerning the desirability of Asian males (or absence thereof), which often led us to genuinely believe that they certainly were socially embarrassing, passive, unattractive—and therefore maybe not dateable. Continue reading “For Decades, We Was Vehemently Against Dating Asian Guys—Even Though I Am Chinese”